Although people involved in family law disputes are generally encouraged to seek an out of court settlement whenever possible, certain family law matters can only be resolved through court action. Divorce is one of those often contentious family law matters that requires court intervention.
In Australia, divorce is filed on a no-fault basis. This means that the only basis for granting a divorce is that a marriage has broken down irretrievably. If you're looking to end your marriage, how you conduct yourself during the divorce process is crucial. During the divorce process, emotions can run high, and this can slow down the finalisation of your divorce case.
Here are some tips to help you stay grounded when you're dealing with a divorce.
Feel the Emotions but Vent Them Constructively
It's normal to feel anger, frustration, and other negative emotions when you're going through a divorce, but this doesn't mean you should let such feelings get the better of you.
There are several ways you can express your emotions constructively. You can talk to your lawyer, record your feelings or even drive to a quiet place that helps you clear your mind. Do whatever works for you.
Avoid posting details about your divorce on social media or drowning your sorrows in drug abuse or excessive alcohol consumption. Remember, you need to have a clear mind in order to be on your best behaviour throughout the divorce process.
Don't Ignite a New Flame Until Your Divorce Is Finalised
Ask anyone who's gone through a divorce before, and they'll tell you that life can get quite lonely during the divorce process. Naturally, you may want to seek comfort and solace somewhere else. However, it's important to steer off any new romantic relationship until your current marriage has been dissolved.
While divorce in Australia is granted solely on the ground of irretrievable breakdown, flaunting a new-found love may not help with getting your partner's cooperation during the divorce process.
Be Fair Even When You Are Mad
One of the main reasons why some divorce processes end up being too lengthy and expensive is because either or both parties are too selfish.
Feelings of bitterness and resentment between spouses can leave one or both spouses not wanting to see the other spouse benefit from the properties of the marriage. In cases where children are involved, some parties may even want to separate the children from their partners completely.
Be willing to let your partner keep a reasonable share of the wealth you built together. Also, it's important to let them play an active role in the lives of your children if that is in the children's best interests.
While you don't need a family lawyer to help you with filing for a divorce, it's important to hire one to guide you through the process. Make sure you choose one that focuses on divorce law in your specific state.